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Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Haunted
Recently, one night after shower I was about to blow dry my hair while watching news, a déjà face & voice caught my attention. It's him. He's running a restaurant & was being interviewed on tv. During the time when he aggressively pursued me, he's already the owner of a very popular pub in town & Dy MD of an established firm. Perhaps due to that, I didn't mind the attention & the chance to know him better. He's not good looking but I thought he's capable & charismatic.
However, I soon discovered the horrific sides of him. His temperament was extreme... when he's happy, he could make you laugh and everything around would be bright & cheery. But when he's in a foul mood, I saw & heard the worst vulgarity from him. Though they weren't directed at me, I wouldn't want to be associated with all these verbal abuses. Especially because I'm someone who doesn't swear. But I would only be upset secretly (lest I provoked him further). An explosive temper plus an ego that'd gone way too out of proportion, and I hadn't mention he's also such a manipulative person. This combination made up one of the most disastrous boyfriends. So it wouldn't take much to imagine, the short stint & split became a nightmare.
Some memories are meant to be kept in storage, take them out to reminisce every now & then. But some are meant to be dumped in a non-recycle bin as you never want them back. And those relating to him, definitely belong to the latter.
However, I soon discovered the horrific sides of him. His temperament was extreme... when he's happy, he could make you laugh and everything around would be bright & cheery. But when he's in a foul mood, I saw & heard the worst vulgarity from him. Though they weren't directed at me, I wouldn't want to be associated with all these verbal abuses. Especially because I'm someone who doesn't swear. But I would only be upset secretly (lest I provoked him further). An explosive temper plus an ego that'd gone way too out of proportion, and I hadn't mention he's also such a manipulative person. This combination made up one of the most disastrous boyfriends. So it wouldn't take much to imagine, the short stint & split became a nightmare.
Some memories are meant to be kept in storage, take them out to reminisce every now & then. But some are meant to be dumped in a non-recycle bin as you never want them back. And those relating to him, definitely belong to the latter.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
The Longest we ever had, so far
We’d had a very nice break of 12.5days for Christmas/New Year. Getting into the details, we’ve spent 294 hours together, if inclusive of 6-7 hrs of sleep every day… the missing 6 hrs (12.5 days = 300 hours) would have to be our toilet trips & shower time for those days.
Didn’t go out of Singapore but the fact that we didn’t need to work was delightful enough:) Every morning when we woke up, the first thing we thought about was: "where to have breakfast?".
It's an interesting holiday. Had an assortment of activities during these 12.5days:
- Christmas Eve > gathering with Vince’s family & relatives
- Christmas Day > gathering with my family
- Boxing Day > my “body wellness day” >> facial treatment, acupuncture session then shopping in FEP (shopping = wellness? Sure! :P)
- Several nights > gaming session. Some memory game using poker cards. And hubby also taught me to play "dai di"... as in the past I didn't have the interest to learn though someone's willing to teach. Only both of us, poker cards, beer, chips. Had so much fun that we wouldn’t sleep before 1am during those nights (when we played cards).
- The few days before New Year (29 -31 Dec) > we’re out almost the whole day but just stayed within the neighbourhood. We seemed to have endless things to buy (mainly for the household). In & out of the newly renovated Northpoint & newly opened Sembawang Shopping Centre.
- New Year’s Eve > dinner with mum in Northpoint. Her treat!
- New Year’s Day > had dinner & drinks with L.
- Aside the above, we also started our spring cleaning - packed the smaller store room & removed the curtain for dry cleaning, watched TVB series, sent some of our new clothes to our regular seamstress in Rochor for alteration & gave our car's interior a thorough steam cleaning .....
While our colleagues felt it'd bore them out to have such a long break if weren't travelling, hubby & I found it addictive and wanted more! Maybe we're plain lazy! Hehe.
The next we're looking forward to will be the 9-day CNY break :)
Didn’t go out of Singapore but the fact that we didn’t need to work was delightful enough:) Every morning when we woke up, the first thing we thought about was: "where to have breakfast?".
It's an interesting holiday. Had an assortment of activities during these 12.5days:
- Christmas Eve > gathering with Vince’s family & relatives
- Christmas Day > gathering with my family
- Boxing Day > my “body wellness day” >> facial treatment, acupuncture session then shopping in FEP (shopping = wellness? Sure! :P)
- Several nights > gaming session. Some memory game using poker cards. And hubby also taught me to play "dai di"... as in the past I didn't have the interest to learn though someone's willing to teach. Only both of us, poker cards, beer, chips. Had so much fun that we wouldn’t sleep before 1am during those nights (when we played cards).
- The few days before New Year (29 -31 Dec) > we’re out almost the whole day but just stayed within the neighbourhood. We seemed to have endless things to buy (mainly for the household). In & out of the newly renovated Northpoint & newly opened Sembawang Shopping Centre.
- New Year’s Eve > dinner with mum in Northpoint. Her treat!
- New Year’s Day > had dinner & drinks with L.
- Aside the above, we also started our spring cleaning - packed the smaller store room & removed the curtain for dry cleaning, watched TVB series, sent some of our new clothes to our regular seamstress in Rochor for alteration & gave our car's interior a thorough steam cleaning .....
While our colleagues felt it'd bore them out to have such a long break if weren't travelling, hubby & I found it addictive and wanted more! Maybe we're plain lazy! Hehe.
The next we're looking forward to will be the 9-day CNY break :)
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
Marathon
On New Year's Day, we met L for dinner and continued the chat over drinks... for a record-breaking 9hours. Well I'm not sure about L but that's the longest for me, as well as for hubby.
Dinner started around 6.45pm opposite our place, at this very popular 'Taste of Thailand'. Around 8pm, we moved to our place downstairs. A bottle of red wine, some left over bottles of liquor and chips.
I'm not taking sides, anyway we're not in a position to do so. As we all know, neither of them can say he/she is acquitted, though one might have to shoulder a larger portion of faults for making such move. But there're just too many pre-existing problems that contributed to today's situation which seriously I don't think are negligible issues. Not nitpicking or trying to condemn but I feel that it's important to dissect the problems to know what've actually gone wrong. This is essential for communication & reconciliation, though I'm not sure whether it's too late now. Been there before... if the other party only has the intention to salvage but doesn't realise there're serious problems fatal to the relationship, how can things be worked out? Worse is, what's being focused on is my wrongdoings that have resulted in the current situation & his are considered small matters. To say it crudely, I'll even be more convinced of my decision because things won't change, and he won't change.
I miss M, this sweet friend.
L only left few minutes before 4am. By the time we went to bed, it was nearly 5am. Thank God we didn't have to work the next day.
We know we can't help much... just hope for the best for L, who is a very nice & dear friend to us, in 2009.
Dinner started around 6.45pm opposite our place, at this very popular 'Taste of Thailand'. Around 8pm, we moved to our place downstairs. A bottle of red wine, some left over bottles of liquor and chips.
Our drinks of the night + Alizé Bleu (not in pic)
I'm not taking sides, anyway we're not in a position to do so. As we all know, neither of them can say he/she is acquitted, though one might have to shoulder a larger portion of faults for making such move. But there're just too many pre-existing problems that contributed to today's situation which seriously I don't think are negligible issues. Not nitpicking or trying to condemn but I feel that it's important to dissect the problems to know what've actually gone wrong. This is essential for communication & reconciliation, though I'm not sure whether it's too late now. Been there before... if the other party only has the intention to salvage but doesn't realise there're serious problems fatal to the relationship, how can things be worked out? Worse is, what's being focused on is my wrongdoings that have resulted in the current situation & his are considered small matters. To say it crudely, I'll even be more convinced of my decision because things won't change, and he won't change.
I miss M, this sweet friend.
L only left few minutes before 4am. By the time we went to bed, it was nearly 5am. Thank God we didn't have to work the next day.
We know we can't help much... just hope for the best for L, who is a very nice & dear friend to us, in 2009.
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