Those Were My Wildest Days

Last week, got an sms from a friend (MG) whom we’ve lost touch for more than 2 years. And well… that got my hubby to be on his toes again…

Upon receiving his message, loads of memories flooded back… when Vince was still ‘actively pursuing’ me.... & that’s the time I was involved with The Bar. Just 1 year & it’s definitely the craziest time in my life especially, to think about it, I used to be such a good girl who’s never made my parents worried since young. My life went haywire for a while & I guess… that’s my very own reaction of getting over a terrible relationship.

MG’s a bartender in a pub in town & we’re introduced through a mutual friend, E. He asked for my hp no. the 1st day (or rather, nite) we met. E got to know & seemed surprised saying MG’s actually quite a shy guy. Besides dealing with E’s weird attitude (this minute he’d praise MG & teased me about the special treatment I received at the pub, the next he’d say something bad about MG & discouraged me to be on friendly term with him), I gotta admit I didn’t really mind the attention given.
MG’s pretty upfront in expressing himself by - creating a cocktail in my name, getting me some snacks in case I went empty-stomach with alcohol, sending some medicine to my office when he knew I was sick… & there’s once it got a lil too cold in the pub & when he knew it, he immediately gave me his jacket. Went out a few times… for dinner & ktv session… also for supper after he finished work & chatted over coffee till 5am! 1 thing I was very clear about… there’s no chemistry at all. Probably due to his age (he’s even younger than Vince!)… or more importantly… I’d always think about Vince when out with him. But I didn’t mind hanging out with MG as he’d been very well-behaved… never ever tried taking advantage of me physically or verbally.

As for E, he’s 1 of the regular supporters at The Bar who would be there for 1 or 2 bottles of wine every weekend. Apart from going to MG’s pub, I’d also go to other night spots with E & the guys when I wasn’t at The Bar. The advantages of being the only girl in the group – well taken care of & no need to pay a single cent (yaya.. cheapskate right?) & the disadvantages – no girl friend to giggle with & has to be alert all the time. They seemed trustworthy people but never be too sure.

And even during those nights at The Bar particularly weekends, E or other friends would have a drink or 2 at our place before proceeding on to other pubs nearby. They’d pull me over to join them at Eastside or Siam across the road or even nearer, next door’s Newsroom. Sometimes I’d get carried away & disappeared for half an hour to even an hour.. then came back to The Bar having to face a grumpy sis.

Atop of those, because of work I got to know this gentleman, GT, who runs a freight/shipping business. We hit it off & became friends… for a few months we’d meet up for a few drinks at a sports club with his biz partners. Meanwhile, he intentionally introduced me to 1 of his staff, Eric. Quite a nice chap but my honey doesn’t have a good expression of him because of an incident. Can’t blame my honey at all.. he’s all the reasons to get upset. There’re a few times I joined GT & the rest for a drinking session & then met up with Vince (my suitor then, ha!). I’d usually get ‘punished’ by Eric for leaving early & would have to down a few glasses before going… & by the time I met Vince, I’d look like a lobster who’d just climbed out from the Johnny Walker bottle… I was forever very late (1 hour & more) for our meeting which made Vince really worried. And whenever I saw Vince, I’d always feel so safe & at ease. That’s the feeling my honey gave me from the start.
And talk about GT… I really admire him. As a boss, he’s no airs & would go on a weekly drinking session with his staff. As we’re in related business, we ever attended a gala dinner together in KL which adjourned to some party time thereafter & he’s 1 who literally works hard & plays hard.

It’s around the same time I met TM as well. Initially we went out rather frequently, for dinner & drinks… 1 evening after confiding in each other, we discovered we’re in very similar situations & I guess it somehow strengthened our bond. He’s been a very dear friend, helping me out when I was in need. Will be celebrating his BD with him this evening, my understanding hubby’s given the green light!

It’s when Vince & I were kinda officially going out that I started to distant myself from all of them. Initially I’d still receive some smses from the guys & especially MG’s last stunt really made my honey remember him till now, & it’s funny. That night after Vince’s bike lesson, we went ktv @ 12am. While singing, I received several smses from MG who’s at a stag party. After a few messages, he asked to see me later on but I told him I wasn’t free. Then around 3am when we’re about to finish our singing session, he kept calling me saying he wanted to see me & that all his friends had already left as he wanted to wait for me. From his voice, we deduced he’d gotten himself very drunk… so we decided to drive to where he’s at just to make sure he’s alright. A few turns later we finally found him… & he’s so wasted! After some coaxing, we put him on a cab we hailed to send him home before we went ahead to have supper. You should really see the look on my honey’s face then… till now he still talks about it.

Only much later that my honey told me he’s actually very worried for me during that period of time but he couldn’t do much as we’re not together yet. It’s indeed quite scary come to think about it now & I’m thankful all the guy friends I hanged out with had behaved well. I thank God that I survived & came out as a better person, with a very loving husband & beautiful home to call our own…..