Back Again

Last Sun morning hubby had to be at the Singapore Bay Run.  Our plan was to leave home early & have breakfast together at City Hall.. then hubby would go to the Bay Run & I'd stay on for another hour before walking to church.  However, the actual situation superseded our plan (which I thought was a near perfect one in terms of timing & location for the both of us).  We didn't anticipate crowds at such early hour.  When exiting CTE, we didn't feel quite right as we're already in a Q at 5.55am!  We originally wanted to park at Raffles City but it's full.  Went to Marina Square's instead & we made many rounds in the carpark before finally finding a lot.  It's a long walk from Marina Square.  By then, it's already 6.30am so we parted half way, he to the event venue and I, to McDonald's next to Bras Basah for breakfast before leaving for church at 8.

While I walked to church alone, some reminiscences returned... back to my college days when I went to church alone (parents rode their vespa & I took bus)...  Then during worship service, I was like back to those days when the whole family attended service together (except bro & family).  That time, there're 6 of us... Last Sun, only the 3 females in the family - mum, sis & me.  After so many years, I'm much much happier now... whereas for sis, I'm not sure.  And mum.. She's been such a strong old lady without daddy.  So much has changed.  Suddenly I missed hubby so much though it's only a short break from each other.

After church, I stayed around to wait for hubby.  But Raffles City was unbelievably crowded at 10 in the morning!  And all the cafés were full!  After walking around for half an hour, I managed to find a place to enjoy some tea & dessert in a quiet, relaxed ambience.

Swissotel's Lobby Court.

I had their tea set - a pot of TWG chamomile tea + a Chocolate truffle cake, from a good selection of tea & cakes/pastries.

After enjoying solitude for an hour, hubby's back! :D

Thank you Lord ...

... for the remarkable Tuesday:)

Very often we just have to marvel at how our God works in our lives. For so many years, hubby has been praying for me... that I'll be able to really walk out of the shadows.

I crossed the 1st hurdle last Christmas Eve. The 2nd hurdle was overcome 7 months later - I returned for the 1st Sunday Service with mum & hubby on 11 July. It's a pleasant surprise for mum as she wasn't aware beforehand... & yes, she's so happy. And many old friends gave me a welcoming pat on the shoulder :)

Just 1 week after the return.. my ex passed me (through his dad who gave it to my mum in church on Tue) an officially-signed letter, requesting me to give consent in releasing my right as his insurance beneficiary. Initially I was quite upset... after 7 years, I still had to deal with such matters of his. I dreaded to see him again & what's worse - seeing his parents as they had to be there too. The sight of him (& his parents) would remind me of those stormy days... of his nasty attitude... of the sickening (欠扁) look that's always on his face....

Text him 2 days after I got the letter & arranged to meet the following Tue.. just wanted to get it over. Sabrina, my bestie in church, told me to go with hubby. She's the only I kept in touch with since I left & she's the one who "taught" me how to be a true friend.

So that Tue morning (20 July), I was at AIA office in Raffles Place with hubby & waited anxiously to be face-to-face with the ex & his parents for the 1st time in 6 years. I was nervous... I wasn't sure if I'd get similar unpleasant treatments from them again... But hey, I thought I was doing him a big favour ok.

And it turned out to be better than I expected. Guess he appreciated my prompt response & agreement to his request. After all that he'd done in order not to make my life easier, he might assume that I'd have jumped at this chance to revenge? So he's smiley from the 1st moment I saw him & so was his mum. Not too bad... though his dad was as usual stone-faced (but at least better than flaring his fiery temper).

When we're waiting for things to be done (hubby was waiting for me & gave his support from afar & his parents were sitting behind), we got into small chats.. he got a new job again (his 15th, or so?).. anyway it's no longer my business. He also said he's going to drop his girlfriend of a few years & I was a lil too amazed by his frank remark that I didn't know how to respond...
Before I left, he even thanked me & apologise for the troubles.

Thank God for the whole healing process... The day I was ready to return to my ex-church & see everyone again, it's when God healed me of the remaining brokenness from the past. The ex has been attending another church & we didn't see his parents as they attending different congregation but the recontact just happened so timely - how great was His arrangement.

In fact now, I don't mind adding him on Facebook. That's how much I'm freed from the past. ;)

On Mission

These recent months, I've seen a few programs about celebrities going on trips to do charity/voluntary works.

I've gone on a similar trip as well. That's 10 years ago & a mission trip to Chiangmai organised by my ex church... a really eye opening 1 for me.

A visit to the slum in Chiangmai city on the day of our arrival.
Tip given: to walk through the area in high alert mode as security within was very low. Also not to peep into the squats as strangers were usually not welcome.
Looking at the living condition, I really couldn't imagine if I were to stay there. We're so blessed.

The 1st day's activities were pretty light as by the time we arrived & settled down, it's already in the afternoon.

On the 2nd day, we had a crash course on Thai culture - what were the to-dos & taboos.. & spent some time in learning some basic words to get us around. The most interesting part gotta be the practical "test". We're split in small groups & being brought to a wet market. Each group was given a fix amount of bahts & a list of items to buy that were needed to prepare for the evening's dinner. So we had to use the newly learnt language to get the required items & if it's more than the amount we're given, we had to bargain. It's fun & a great way to learn a language. It's also useful for my subsequent work trips to Bangkok when I shopped ;)

Besides paying visits to some pastors/mission schools/missionaries... to know more about the mission field in Chiangmai & to pray for them, we travelled to a few interesting places ....

At the Agape Home.
It's an orphanage but not a normal one. This was home for those children with HIV/AIDS. Their parents had either died of HIV/AIDS or were unable/too ill to take care of their children. And some were abandoned babies. Precautions we took - cover all open wounds with a plaster. We could carry the babies but had to be more careful of their movements & not to be scratched. We truly admired the founder & the baby sitters who had so much love for these babies.

We went to the Street Kids Home. These kids, age ranging from 4 to 16 years old, were abandoned by their parents. Some were even formerly sold to syndicates which used them to beg for money on the streets.

We're travelling up in songthaew (meaning 2 rows) to a church in a minority tribe.... if I don't remember wrongly, it's or related to the Miao tribe.

The road was like this all the way up. When we reached, one of the guys wiped his face with tissue & turned out to be brown. We then realised it's the same for all of us! Apparently our foundation that day was the soil.

I was teaching the kids some songs.



Game time.

Our last stop was Mae Hong Son.
Crossing rivers & bridges to the Shan Village, located in the mountain, just next to the border of Myanmar. The community there was made up of Burmese refugees.

A closed school

You won't believe that.... this was home for the lil boy & his mum.

Another one.

Seeing the condition of these homes, even the shabbiest one in Spore would be a haven to them.

Trekking down to visit more people

We organised a 'carnival' for the villagers. That night, we brought much happiness to them especially the children.

When we're leaving, all of them formed a line to bid us farewell.

This place, comparatively in a much better condition than those we visited, was where we spent 2 nights. The whole place was made of straws including the flooring & elevated by lots of bamboos. The arrangement was all guys in 1 room & all girls in another. But straws didn't block out any sound at all, so much so that when one of the guys snored, all of us could hear it so well that as if the noise was right next to you! And when 1 walked past, the noise of the straws travelled the entire place. And it's sooo cold! But we're all thankful enough to have such an experience.
(* Both of us were busy playing with a very cute lil kitten)

A group pic before we left

In these 10 days, I've gained lots... & somehow that year's Christmas, which was 2 weeks after we returned, had an added meaning too.

Dear Diaries,

Thanks for the precious memories :)

I was doing packing & found my diaries from secondary school & college days...

Then I spent those time that's supposed to be used on packing in reading journals.

I used to feel lonely & unwanted as almost all the girls around me were attached then. I'd many crushes before but none was reciprocated. I asked so many 'Whys' & thought very lowly of myself.

Could still recall the innocence & dejectedness in me as I read. Studying could be boring or stressful then & the most enjoyable time gotta be looking out for, then eventually seeing my target of infatuation, be it for just 1 second but I could spend the whole day trying to analyse if he'd noticed me & decipher his body language.

There're so many incidents I've long forgotten & thanks to the diaries, my mind was once again refreshed.

I thank the Lord as I now have everything that I've previously yearned for, & even much bountiful than I could have asked.......
- I used to think that I was such an awful person that no guy would like me. But now, I'm so loved & pampered in a princessly way by a wonderful man whom I call hubby.
- I used to be so deprived of material comforts as we're poor & going out with classmates was usually difficult as I'd no money to splurge.. so needless to talk about vacation.Now, though we're not rich, I lack nothing & have been blessed with holidays with hubby, so far, to France, Korea, Australia, Thailand, Vietnam, Indonesia, Malaysia.... & there're still many many countries we plan to visit in the future!
- I used to be a timid gal who's very homebound & completely reliant on my family; I'd not taken a flight before till I was 21 & that's going to KL for work.But when I've grown up, due to work, I was trained to be independent as I'd to travel All Alone bi-monthly mainly to ASEAN countries (France, HK, China, Taiwan at times).

Very easily, we take the things we're enjoying now for granted. But those that we call basics now could have been our fantasies many years ago.

So I'll continue to keep these diaries well. They serve as an encouragement & reminder for me :)

Violence. Why?

Saw a pic of MG with a bruised eye on FB. Was curious.. wanted to ask but don't think it's appropriate. Based on some remarks left by his friend, think he got into a fight in Zouk?

Hubby said.. there're only 2 possible reasons why a man gets into a fight - 1) money & 2) woman... that's typical!

Though typical it sounds, there's some truth... as $$$ & love (especially when it's romantically linked) have great power in evoking a person's emotions or worse, in making a person act impulsively.

Both hubby & I were being offered such a complimentary service before.

About hubby's, it's during his NS days & we all know the guys there come from all walks of life. He's having relationship problem then & his mates offered to bash the 3rd party. But hubby declined their "help" as he didn't see the need at all to get himself into trouble for someone who's already gone.

Mine? Also few years ago before I knew hubby. Mentioned before that I was coming out of a rocky relationship & someone from overseas said he could send some guys to teach him a lesson for mistreating me. I rejected the offer too as I didn't want to break the law & get myself implicated because of that loser. And also gave him a chance to deprecate me? Totally not worth it.

Fortunately both of us were rational. But many guys (& maybe some girls too?) let their anger or ego rule their head, which is why there're crimes of fights happening everyday.

Rocks

Just blasted an extremely satisfying dose of rock songs....

Is This Love by Whitesnake ~ my most fav!
18 & Life by Skid Row
A Whiter Shade of Pale by Hagar Schon Aaronson Shrieve
When The Children Cry by White Lion
Livin On A Prayer by Jon Bon Jovi
You Give Love A Bad Name by Jon Bon Jovi
Faithfully by Journey
Open Arms by Journey
We Will Rock You by Five ~ always prefer this version over OA's (Queen)
Poison by Alice Cooper
The Search Is Over by Survivor
Beautiful Ones by Suede
Everything Will Flow by Suede
Little Lies by Fleetwood Mac
Dreams by Fleetwood Mac
Last Kiss by Pearl Jam

Man... different songs, different phases of my life .....

JTSS Reunion @ Fisherman's Wharf

Last Fri night, met up with the ex secondary school mates/classmates. It's initally organised for our class (4C) but turned out to be an inter-class gathering. It's the first time meeting some of them after we left school!

Not too many of us... plus a few from our class dropped out last minute (including Mel). So that night's attendance - 5 from 4C, 1 from 4A (& he's MS, remember who he is?), 3 from 4B & 2 from 4E :)

The lady in the centre used to be my idol.. haha.. as she's so pretty & was always surrounded by guys. I could only admire her from afar every day after school as she stayed near my place. And I'm surprised that she still remembers me, given that she's so popular.. :)

John tried his best to have his side profile taken so he might look slimmer. But, wrong choice! Haha!

John's succeeded! His chin's so sharp in this candid shot :P

We'd a real good laugh reminiscing those days in school. We're crazy then... Almost everyday we fought in class.. you know, the typical Boys vs Girls.. but the girls were always Mel, Sally & me only. The boys? Usually 5 to 6 of them, if not more. I was such a tomboy then :)

How fun we were? In our graduation year, the whole class put up a performance "Miss Universe Pageant" for Teachers' Day celebration & it's spectacular! We're the only class who got on stage as a whole class:) And after so many years, I still think the plot's hilarious!

It's a pity that video recorder was not common then & there's no digital camera. Below are some scanned pix (so image quality's not good) to explain the story......

I was 1 of the 5 finalists - Miss Japan. The other 4 finalists were (from left) Miss India, Miss Thailand & Miss Hawaii. Miss Chile was the last finalist announced. Look at her expression! Haha!

So finally, Miss Chile won the title. But Miss India, Miss Thailand & Miss Hawaii strongly contested the result & even got into a cat fight with Miss Chile while Miss Japan stood aside, terribly frightened.

It was when their hair & clothes were torn by one another that their real identities exposed...... they're all men!! So naturally Miss Japan, being the only girl, was crowned Miss Universe...

Miss Japan on the Miss Universe throne. Mel was the previous Miss Universe. I had an interpreter & 2 ninja as escorts. In fact, I'd enjoyed very much, the rehearsals & the actual performance... because at that time, I'd a huge crush on the ninja on my left. Hee.

Other than some roles of escorts & interpreters, the rest of the classmates were contestants from other countries.
Take a look again at our 4 beauties... I would vote for Miss India as she (err.. he) looked so pretty & demure. And the funniest gotta be Miss Hawaii! Hehee...

It's our glorious past, haha, as our performance was such a rave then. We heard that quite a few who participated in other performances for Teachers' Day saw ours during the full dress rehearsal & by word-of-mouth, many who wanted to play truant on that day actually attended school just to watch us! :D

I miss Sec 4C. I miss our unity.

Long Lost Friend

Early last week, I had a new friend request on my facebook and was pleasantly surprised to see that he's my sec schoolmate/classmate. We lost contact when he joined NS.

Sec 1, we're in the same class. I sat in front of him. I could feel that he liked me as he would do almost anything for me. For Egs:
- When he knew I liked his self-made plasticine, somewhat used as blue-tac, he made a real big one for me (but I threw it back at him whenever I was unhappy:P).
- He would deliver video tapes to my house (which was about 10mins by bus then another 10mins walk), just to the doorsteps, not allowed to go in & meet my conservative & fierce mum.
- Same for the Atari games which I wanted to play. He lent me his full set infinitely and delivered to my doorsteps.

I always wonder why as I had the weirdest hairstyle then. Because of that, I had been the laughing stock among the gals especially Mel. Hubby will always burst out laughing whenever he sees photos of the younger me but those were already considered better ones comparatively. If he were to see any pic of me in that goofy hairstyle, think he’ll definitely flip! Haha... Well, think about a (girl) studdent with short, layered & back-combed hair (short as in real short, just a lil longer than the boys’) with a centre part... but a bit of the short, naturally-curled fringe was deliberately “pasted” on the forehead for don’t-know-what reason. And yes, that’s me...

Ok let’s come back... Sec 2 onwards he went to the first class & I was in the 2nd last. Only when we’re in Sec4 that we resumed regular contacts. Even went to his place, I mean with the gals during CNY & I was being teased almost endlessly. But the gals warned me to not accept him as he seemed to be a very sheltered person as he's always well taken care of by his elder sisters. Nothing happened though & we went on our separate ways after ‘O’ levels... till about 3 years later I can’t remember how we got in touch again. The same old him... still delivered stuff to my doorsteps.. be it medicine or dinner.. we went out quite a few times & then he got into NS. In a way, I was glad that he didn’t ask to bring our 'friendship' to the next level. I think I liked the attention showered but couldn't imagine myself being together with him. I didn't dislike him though... just didn't like him enough to want to be with him, to get emotional when he vanished. And also, I didn't need to choose between religion & him.. maybe that's one of the reasons too.

All thanks to FB, I get to catch up with this childhood (or teenagerhood friend haha). He asked me out for lunch 2 or 3 days after re-meeting on FB. He's supposed to pick me up below my office at 12. He said he'd call when he’s nearing. But 12.15.. 12.25.. no call from him. So I text him...

Me: “Hi, is our lunch still on?”
MS (replied almost immediately): “I’m here. Still waiting at the drop-off point.”
Me: “Still??”

So he explained that he actually reached my office around 11.35 but this blur friend saved my hp number wrongly the previous day & text the wrong person. When I didn’t show up or respond, he called the number to know that it’s switched off. He thought that he’s being stood up but still waited downstairs. Only till I messaged him around 12.30pm that he realized he’d saved the wrong number... Careless careless...

We’ve so far met twice for lunch & both in Central asit's just a short drive from my office but away from the crowd. And his treats;)

He's doing well now, driving a new B-class Merc & the boss of an ID firm of 10 years. So the gals were very wrong. Hmmm...

Was interesting meeting an old friend & we took turns to try update each other on the important events during those lost years. So much to catch up on & also clarified some issues happened back then - at that time, someone told him I already had a boyfriend which was why he chose to let go. Glad that now we can at least talk about things very openly.

MS said if he could turn back the time, he'd have persisted... but now that I'm happily married, everything's irreversible.

Then 6 years ago... back in 2003, we could have met. He’s a regular at Newsroom & mine was right next. Had bumped into quite a few old friends who happened to pass by but not him. He said if he met me then… he'd "go all out" to win me over & hubby wouldn't have a chance.. haha! Yep... I’m quite sure things would not be the same if I were to re-meet him before Mr Soh. But was it for the better? Certainly not. As I feel so happy with us that I can't imagine how life could be better without hubby. Yet both hubby & I agree that he would have been the best choice then. At that time, I was so lost. I needed a pair of strong hands to pull me out of the troubled situation & steady shoulder to lean on. Finances wise, he definitely fitted the bill. And from how he treated me when we’re much younger and even now, I think I would be well taken care of. If MS came into the picture first, I wouldn’t have given hubby & myself a chance to know each other. Or rather, we wouldn't even meet then?

However, it's my heart that I have doubts in. If back then I didn't feel, not even a lil, sad when he decided to go away, I’m pretty clear about my feelings. So I would be accepting him for the wrong reasons and get myself into more distress if I happened to meet someone whom I found myself emotionally attracted to. After all these years, I know myself... Nothing beats LOVE. Of course, money is important as well. And God is so good... He placed hubby in my life. Not MS, & others were just passers-by. I know that my friends were really supportive but many did silently doubt my decision... Vince could not give me financial stability then... choosing him would mean I've to start from scratch again. Why did I not go for TM? Eric? Or others who could provide me sufficiently? At that time, I wasn't that sure... just followed my heart. Besides being the No.1 doting & attentive (then) boyfriend, I saw his potential in proving himself at work. Hubby’s also the only one among the rest who shares the same faith as me and unbelievably, with very similar background & problems, which I've now come to realise how important that is for a couple. It's definitely drawn us closer. Sometimes, even till now, I do admire my own courage & take pride in having such accurate foresight:P But frankly, all I can say... it's His arrangement.

Had also filled MS in on what hubby & I been through especially during the initial 3years+. He felt happy for me that I was able to find such a good husband and he gave us his blessings. He also said... now besides hubby, I have another man to trust.

I'm really happy to have re-found this long lost friend and hope that he'll be a good friend for another 20 years... or even 30, 40 years... not only with me, but also with hubby:)

Haunted

Recently, one night after shower I was about to blow dry my hair while watching news, a déjà face & voice caught my attention. It's him. He's running a restaurant & was being interviewed on tv. During the time when he aggressively pursued me, he's already the owner of a very popular pub in town & Dy MD of an established firm. Perhaps due to that, I didn't mind the attention & the chance to know him better. He's not good looking but I thought he's capable & charismatic.


However, I soon discovered the horrific sides of him. His temperament was extreme... when he's happy, he could make you laugh and everything around would be bright & cheery. But when he's in a foul mood, I saw & heard the worst vulgarity from him. Though they weren't directed at me, I wouldn't want to be associated with all these verbal abuses. Especially because I'm someone who doesn't swear. But I would only be upset secretly (lest I provoked him further). An explosive temper plus an ego that'd gone way too out of proportion, and I hadn't mention he's also such a manipulative person. This combination made up one of the most disastrous boyfriends. So it wouldn't take much to imagine, the short stint & split became a nightmare.


Some memories are meant to be kept in storage, take them out to reminisce every now & then. But some are meant to be dumped in a non-recycle bin as you never want them back. And those relating to him, definitely belong to the latter.

Those were the days ....

Was looking for some old pix when I raked up quite a few I took during The Bar days.

If you do notice, there's 1 gal who appeared in all of the above pix.
She used to be a close girlfriend.

From left, clockwise:

- Pic 1 &2 > She celebrated her birthday at The Bar.

- Pic 3 > With a few regulars.

- Pic 4 >We had a pool tournament. The circled "mysterious" person in the background was actually Mr Soh; he came with his camp buddy (who was the champion) & another friend. That's also the night that I confirmed he's interested in me. :D

By the way, I intentionally put up small pix to protect their identities :P

With cousin Ann & sis.

With jie-meis.

The regulars-turned-friends gave me a surprise birthday bash together with sis. I'd just touched down from France on that very morning.
Above, left bottom: Wouldn't have kept this picture if it wasn't taken with the regulars. A look at the inset & you'd have guessed how I was feeling then when he put his arm around me. Hmm...

I love this pic.

A toast to Kelly, the birthday gal !! :)

*But wandering where I was looking at then, holding a bottle of champagne instead of a champagne glass*

Long Weekends...... & Reminiscence

I needed to clear my leave by end Jun, not that there're many days as I'm only into my 3rd month. Hubby was sweet enough to apply leave as well on last mon & tue (16th & 17th) & we had a good prolonged weekend.

Sat morning hubby had a work discussion with his boss & the creative agency at Spore Post Centre's Coffee Bean. So I went to McDonald's in the same premise with my lappy to wait for hubby... free flow tea up to 11am is a big attraction :P

Just when I, in shorts & with a big green bag, was dragging my slippers & carrying my tray of tea & hashbrowns to the corner seat I eyed on, I took a quick glance at the person sitting at the other end of the corner. A chap & he's shooting a swift stare at me too. We both then took another look at the same time before realising that we actually knew each other. So there we were, seated at 2 ends with another 4-seater table in the middle, chatting casually. CW was previously from the SQ crew for a few years, then went over to BA & he's still there. He used to be a good-looking dude who worked out diligently, which was why I was a lil taken aback to see him with bit of receding hairline & a slightly flabby bod instead.

After some small talks, I moved to the front where there's a powerpoint for my notebook. He left shortly after too.

And here it is, story-telling time again.....
I took notice of CW when in my first year college because of his appearance & style - he's 1 of those who wore black boots to school & could carry it well. We're from different class and he didn't even know me. So I only admired him from a distance.

Second year, we happened to be in the same class & became friends. By the way, in his first year (when he's in another class) he went with a girl, W, for a few months but she later became a lesbian. I knew W too & thus gave us more topics to talk about. I used to make fun of him about what he had done to W who eventually preferred to be a man & have girlfriends instead.

The way the story went is what every girl hopes it should be - befriending someone you admire for a long time. However the more I knew him, the more I confirmed that nothing would come out of our friendship. And I am pretty sure till now he didn't know that I once had a 'little' crush on him :)

After graduation, we still kept in touch. Long phone chats & went for movies/drinks once in a while. I was the only one from the class he kept in touch. But by then, I'd already got over any special feeling towards him. I'd always thought that we're of different categories - he's always the avant-garde... stylish & daring. He's always ahead of fashion. Me? A complete plain jane.

Over the years, we went out lesser & lesser especially when he started flying.

But I will always remember one nice thing he'd done as a supportive friend & that's during 'The Bar' days. At the Opening, many friends came down to support & CW was one of them amidst his busy flying schedule. He surprised me by showing up with a group of about 8 & settling a spending of nearly S$500 for the night's drinks. I know how it feels that's why I tried to give support when MG opened his.. but of course I couldn't spend as much as what CW did!

About 2 years ago we lost contact till I chanced upon him at McDonald's. What's interesting is, I no longer feel he's any different from me... Likewise, he's in a pair of bermudas, polo tee & a big bag.... as ordinary as I am.

Is it because of his appearance? Maybe. Or age? Maybe too. Guys, after a certain age, can't do bold dressing. What's bold? Let's take CW for eg., he had the guts to wear a jumpers & still looked great (you don't see many guys out there wearing jumpers in the past & present, ya?). In this case, I think ladies are in a more favourable situation as long as her figure doesn't go too out of shape. Cosmetics, hairdo, variety of clothes & accessories, if done tastefully, can make a woman at any age.

Ok I'm getting too far. Back to our long weekend. Hubby finished with his boss before 11am & we went to Kaki Bukit to settle some errands for the household. Also shopped in Orchard & brought home 4 pairs of pants! All mine! Hee. Got some other items for our new interest too. That's the advantage of starting the day early (& waking up is the most difficult part). Had Father's Day dinner at Ka Soh, Alumni Medical Centre. After dinner, hubby had to get some work done & we pulled my BIL, Ben, along instead of sending him back first :P. After that, we went supper together & counselled the depressed Ben (as he just made a shocking discovery... afterall it's been nearly 3 years but that's part & parcel of growing up).

Sunday was mostly spent at home, busied ourselves with the new hobby.

Monday morning, we're back at Raffles Place... nope! not for work, but for my facial appointment. Then some finger food for lunch before going for a matinée movie - Sex And The City. Yep, we re-watched it using the free movie tix! :)

Tues was a laidback day for us in the neighbourhood... also resting & DVDs. Did I say we're into some TVB series lately?

This weekend will be another extended one, but only tomorrow. Clearing my last day of leave for this FY & hubby took too to spend some time with me. We should be receiving a long-awaited item tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

Friday nights

The Fri evening before last (6/6), hubby brought me to an event he got invited to - Standard Chartered Bank Rugby Dinner @ Orchard Hotel. While enjoying the novelty of appearing in some official events as Vincent's spouse, I (rather, we) wished we would have a better way of spending our Fri night. Not because more than 95% of the 600 guests were caucasians, it was mainly the subject of this event (& of course the speeches that came along) that bored us to the core.

Not that I am totally strange to rugby games... if you are a Saint, you'll know (if LL's reading this, he should get what I mean:]).. we (as far as I know many of the girls, like myself & my clique) were so into rugby because of our fellow school mates. We supported most of the inter-school matches & our archrival used to be RJ. Our rugby boys had been the target of crushes budded by many adolescent hearts in college.

Talking about this, I remember once during the physical education lesson, the teacher (he's one of those uncles in school that always get bullied or made fun of because of his appearance & behaviour) who obviously didn't spare a thought for our feelings, split us into 2 groups - the guys to play soccer & the girls...... to LEARN rugby. The big field was right in front of the canteen & the best part was.... it was during the time when many of the rugby guys gathered at the canteen! Haha.

So, that's how much I know about rugby :P

Then last Fri, another invitation was extended to Mr & Mrs Soh by the Esplanade - dinner & an Asian choreography of 3 hours by Singapore Dance Theatre. But hubby had to stay back in office to settle some urgent matters so we gave that night's program a miss.

As for tomorrow evening, we plan to have our complimentary Swiss dinner buffet at Cafe Swiss, Swissotel The Stamford. We'll see. :)

Bitten too many times

Last Wed lunch time, I bought my usual take-away bee hoon kueh from the coffeeshop nearby. Was walking back to office when I heard a "hello" behind me. I looked over my shoulder & saw this young chap following closely. Had no idea when he started to appear as the last I knew was meeting 2 chatting ladies at an intersection & then they walked behind me.

Anyhow, everything started & was over in less than a minute while I continued walking throughout....

Guy: Hello, can I know you?
Me: No.
Guy: Then can I give you my name card? (handing me a card)
Me: No.
Guy: Just take it, please?
Me: No.

He asked me to take his card for the 2nd time & I shook my head while giving him a wry smile before picking up my pace.

He might be thinking I embarrassed him in front of 2 ladies.

Isn't this a passé way of knowing girls? Or am I wrong?

Befriending someone on the streets used to be real popular. It didn't just happen to hot babes... those who've seen pix of my much younger days will know what I mean. And hubby can't stop himself from laughing at/teasing me whenever we're on this :\

My 1st encounter should be....... when I was in Sec 3 or 4? A group of guys were roller-skating (yep it's that era haha) at the opposite void deck. I was below my block walking to the bus-stop when a few of them approached me, wanting to chat. There's a particular one who'd been skating next to me persisted for a distance before giving up. I thought he looked cute but mum ever said towards strangers4 . So I ignored them. Though I was secretly hoping to see this cute guy again at the void deck.

Then along the way, met people who came up with those usual stunts like asking for time, saying I looked like so & so, asking for direction, etc. A freak even tailed me from the bus all the way to my void-deck.

Besides the roller-skating boy (the memorable 1st :þ)... a few gave a deeper impression:

- On my way to school (pre-u). After I alighted, someone called me from behind & asked for time (typical!). Then he started asking for my name & stuff. Another cute guy who's an undergrad & a swimmer. Then we exchanged home nos. Obviously I no longer listened to my mum after a few years ;) Met up a few times. I was once pretty crazy over him. Imagine those days without cell phone.... when you're out, you're literally out of reach. So I would spend most of my time at home, near the phone. But I'd to accept he's just a rover.

- During year-end holiday job (pre-u again). A Swiss asked me for direction & then those usual questions. Contact details exchanged. We corresponded (letters) a few times after he returned to Zurich. More than a year later I think, he visited Singapore again & I agreed to be host. Know what he did on the 1st day we re-met? He proposed to me! He actually asked me to marry him!! That totally blew me away. I was only 19 or 20 then whereas he's nearing 40. We weren't even dating, at least not that I knew of, & I didn't like him at all. Of course I rejected him flatly. Tough to avoid him completely as he's staying here for a week. The next time we met I asked my sis & 1 of her girlfriends along but he treated them as invisible most of the time & attempted to overwhelm me with mushy words the entire evening. That's final for me. I refused to take his calls & had to let him spend his remaining days here by himself. At least there's something good about those no-handphone days, hee. After he returned, he didn't give up & sent me letters, pictures of his yacht & cottage.. saying those would belong to me if I were to marry him *faint* but I didn't respond. Then one night, mum woke me up @ 2am+ & said my boss was looking for me. Turned out to be him blabbering away. I hung up on him shortly after & think that's the last I heard of him. Couldn't imagine myself liking an 'elderly' then.

- During the initial days of working. Was waiting for bus after seeing a doc. Then this very tall & skinny guy who's also waiting at the bus-stop came forward & chatted with me. I recognised him as one of the patients at the clinic. Exchanged home nos & he asked me out the following Sun evening for drinks. He confided in me that his girlfriend had died of cancer a year ago & since then he couldn't bring himself to date other girls till he met me. I was so gullible then & took everything he said. We supposed to meet again the following week but he disappeared, I tried calling but couldn't reach him. Only a few days later he contacted me & said he's busy with work over the weekend. We kept in touch via phone as he always claimed he needed to work extended hours. Blame it on my naivety that I didn't realise I wasn't even a 'Girl Friday'. Only after he went missing for weeks that I finally gave up hope. About a year later, he called me out of the blue. But I was already attached then. As I was so stupid (that I didn't realise he's a jerk when it's so obvious), I even tried to introduce a good friend to him by organising a movie outing with my then clique (5 couples). Thank God she's not ready for another relationship though she'd good impression. Then 1 day, Michelle who'd met him during the outing told me I'd been duped. She attended a wedding dinner the previous night & coincidentally saw him at the next table but he pretended to not know her. She confirmed with a mutual friend that he's indeed Alwin Cheong & then came the shocking news.... he'd already been attached for more than 4 years & the girlfriend was sitting next to him! To think that he told me his girlfriend died of cancer more than a year ago?? Since he's such a scum to be cursing his own girl, I've no qualms about revealing his full name. Who knows, he might still be deceiving other innocent girls now?

- At the DFS of Jakarta international airport. I was browsing while waiting for a flight back after a work trip. I noticed a man was following me for a while & perhaps he sensed that I was turning hostile, he approached me & introduced himself. He's an Italian & maybe because he's handsome, I didn't mind engaging in a conversation with him though his English was limited haha. His friend, another Italian but was the opposite in terms of physical attributes :P, soon joined in after his shopping. We had a coffee together & then they walked me to my boarding gate. I agreed to give him my mobile phone no. but didn't ask for his as I'd no intention to keep in touch. The next day after I returned, he called me from Milan. I was surprised. But I just couldn't figure out what he's trying to say & ended the conversation shortly. It's always easier to communicate face to face with gestures. After days (or weeks?) he called the 2nd time but again, we couldn't talk for long. We could have just exchanged email addresses then.
Soon after, I changed my handphone number. He might have tried calling me again, or he might not have.

As you can see the chance of being acquainted with strange people or jerks almost hit 100%, at least for me, I've shut out those who try to get friendly out on the streets long time ago. Moreover, I'm already happily married now so there's no need to know more guys. :)

Irony in Life

There's something about the ex that I found myself missing & regretting.

That is, his mum's dried bean curd skin with ginko nuts & barley dessert (腐竹白果薏米).
I'm not joking.

Missed, as I must say she made the best 腐竹白果 dessert.
Regretted, that I didn't learn from her. Knowing I loved it, she used to urge me to "apprentice" when she's preparing but I was always too lazy. So who shall I blame.

As a vast 'Tong Shui' lover, I constantly craved for this Cantonese dessert. Mum tried to satiate me but it's just not the same. No matter how mum boiled it, the soup simply wouldn't turn as milky as tau huay drink (豆浆)..... the bean curd skin only became very tiny bits. ie. after a while there'd be 2 layers - water & the settled skin bits. And believe me, it taste very differently. Same as those we ate at hawker stalls/restaurants (if any).

Last Sunday, I decided to experiment it myself... was bent on finding the secret to making "tau huay zui" out of the dried beancurd skin. However I nearly gave up when my method didn't deem successful. Thanks to hubby ... he suggested 1 appeared to be simple yet crucial modification to my idea and yes, we finally made it! Aren't we the best partners? Mum tried & she thought we added milk. Say félicitations to us!

This accomplishment had certainly made my day due to its underlying meaning. No longer feel I'd missed out on something after I walked out that door. Years ago.

But still, the biggest irony gotta be the sole thing I ever missed in my last relationship was a dessert.

Dramatic

Last Wed.. was shopping @ Seiyu during lunch when I heard someone called my name. It took me a few secs to recognise he's my ex-classmate. As both of us were in a rush, he got my hp no & later sms me his. Started a chat from there & that's when I gotta know he's still in touch with LL. Remember him whom I wrote about end of Nov... Boys of Summer? Got his no. from C & I gave him a surprise call. Chatted for an hour & truly so much had (a PAST tense I really hope) happened to us. I was shock to hear of his & I think likewise for him. Unbelievable...! It's such a biiig coincidence to be able to reconnect with LL after so many years & shortly after I mentioned about him. Adding on, he wrote about it on 28Dec.. exactly 1 month after I did.

Most importantly, it's comforting to know that we're now very happy with our respective partners. Cheers to a brand new year with many more brighter tomorrows to come!

EX

What would you do if your ex prompt you on MSN ?
(A) Chat
(B) Ignore
(C) Block him

Yesterday out of the blue, CK came online. So far I'd only seen him on MSN for.. maybe 2 or 3 times? And we didn't chat at all. But last afternoon, he sent me a pre Christmas & New Year greeting. So I replied "thanks" which triggered a chat from there. He said he's travelling to Singapore often... he's in talks with Singapore's biggest investment company (not gonna name it) about a JV ~yawn~ ... not again..... Then, there he started once more... said things like - whatever I ever told him still wowed him & stayed in his mind / he tried to forget me now that I'm happily married but sometimes can sometimes can't......

I chose to not continue with the conversation. But I'm glad at least he still knows I'm now happily married.

Last time I'd drill him for more loving words & I barely got it... now when it's unwelcome, he could be out with it so easily?! When you've it, you don't cherish. And now that it's gone, you think it's desirable? Man ......... !

Now I've an answer to my own question. Option C.

The Boys of Summer

This has been 1 of my fav songs... SammyDJ's version most preferred. Recently had it in a CD so currently it's the most played song in our car audio.

1st heard it (by Don Henley) many many years ago & there's a lil story behind... 1 of those "BGR" most of us had gone through during our school days.

When I was in pre-u, it's a common thing to stay back after school to study, especially when nearing exams. Then in 1 of the evenings, someone suggested a break by playing hide & seek. So about 20 of us... most of whom we already knew by then (the regulars who stayed late) - a few of my classmates & the rest from other classes including from the science faculty (mine's commerce). Lotsa crazy acts & we'd so much fun. As the running track was just in front of the cafeteria, 2 of my classmates & I ran to the other side of the track (pitch dark as no lights at night) & lied down. That's a pretty smart move indeed as no1'd have thought that'd be a hiding place too. Couldn't stop giggling while from afar watching them running around in search of the rest & those who hid sneaking around. Hehe.

During 1 of the rounds, met L.L. who's from the science faculty. We hit it off since then.. spent more & more time chatting during the stay-back-&-study session. He's intelligent but deviant & confided in me about his family problems. From how he sounded, they're rich but he just couldn't see eye to eye with his dad mum. And soon, he grew very attached to me. He'd reserve a seat in the library (where it's always full-house) for me to join him in-between my tutorials/lectures. As he's quite popular in school, many came & asked me whether we're an item. And our relationship had never gone beyond sitting shoulder-to-shoulder.... I wouldn't even allow him to hold my hand!

But slowly, guess I grew out of the novelty & infatuation. I so missed being with my sisters whom I behaved silly with, also the bantering moments with guy classmates... while he'd been very nice & devoted. Then 1 day, I told him that I wanted us to go slow.. he agreed though he said he did feel something's amiss. From that very day on, my suggestion of "go slow" turned out to be avoiding him completely. Didn't know why all of a sudden I simply found the sight of him loathsome. And yep... every1 around wanted to know what's going on.

I still stayed back & study, so did he. But I made sure I was at least 10m away from him. In 1 of the afternoons, as usual we're in the same classroom. LL brought a player & had this song on loudly.. The group was puzzled about the sudden loud music but didn't dare to ask him as he'd since become very aloof. It's my 1st time hearing Boys of Summer & somehow I knew he'd the intention to let me hear it. Only later that I gotta know the song better.

His buddies hated me for turning him into an even more closed-up person. Yet he's so nice to forgive me... about a year later, we're back on talking terms & he asked me out again. I agreed to the date which's nothing but freaky. Why? When I was walking to meet him who's like less than 100m away (just a turn at the corner), I bumped into my classmate. Then when we're on the way to the cinema, we met 2 of his classmates & another schoolmate we both knew after the movie! So wasn't that freaky, or wat? Since then, we didn't meet again.

Now whenever I think about it, I wonder would I have handled it in a better way. Was I wrong to completely push him away in a snap of fingers?

Did run into him again after a few years we left school. He's attached. When catching up, he's so proud to tell me that his girlfriend's very beautiful & he's happy to be with her. Good for him!


P.S. Not too long ago during a chat, da-jie jokingly said it's disappointing that I didn't marry L.L. otherwise she'd not need to join the long Q to buy BBQ pork during CNY. Hmmm...

Running thru my mind .....

During my most recent trip I met up with an ex, someone who caused me lotsa hurts & whom I thought I had loved. Ironic as it sounded, we had our last fight on MSN & I left abruptly. He who made known to me before that he wouldn’t take such behaviors (slamming phone / walk away…) didn’t call me since then. On the other hand I already had enough & knew that’s the end. That’s years ago & no official bye-bye.

Though no more emotional residue after I made that decision, I felt I’d been short-changed, of a proper ending or explanation at least. Well the whole story, in a span of 4 years, sounds like a drama… so unreal… & I prefer it to remain as 1…

CK’s introduced to me through a mutual friend, Dato J, whom I got to know through work & they’re childhood friends. He said, in front of all their friends, that CK’s a filthy rich millionaire bachelor… “make him invest in Singapore!” he joked. No special impression on him that night as guys like him would be playboys, certainly no lack of girls & fun. Was just grateful that he helped to pass my time at the otherwise boring dinner @ HRC. All I could remember about him – had his own abalone business in Adelaide & enjoying life with all the wining, dining & partying. Totally forgotten about this person until re-met him a year later, same place with same friend – Dato J. He addressed me by my name while it took me some time to remember I actually knew him but not his name!
By then, he’d moved back to his hometown due to some problems arose in his family construction business & that’s when he shouldered lotsa responsibilities. 1 day shortly after I returned to Singapore, he called me @ work. The embarrassing part was that I couldn’t even remember him! The receptionist & some of my colleagues who overheard our conversation laughed till they nearly flipped. Initially I found him over friendly & he kept calling me “gorgeous” which really ughed me! He’s so persistent in inviting me over for a weekend party… to fly in just to attend some official-opening parties. Can you imagine? Flying in just to party over the weekend? As though taking a cab from home to Orchard to party izit? Crazy! But of course I didn’t know him that well then to tell him all these. So just said I couldn’t make it. However he didn’t give up & insisted on calling me again the following week. Goodness… I ever got so scared of his persistence that I literally threw my hp into the drawer when it rang. Finally he accepted the fact that I wouldn’t go there just for some clubbing sessions. What impressed me then was he intentionally made a stopover in Singapore for a day before going to UK! Since then we’re in daily contact & (according to him) his monthly phone bills could be as much as S$2k.

After some months, I had to make a business trip there & he promised to be the first person I’d see when I got out of the aircraft (fyi not the immigration). Apart from his family business, he’s associated with some police duties which I can’t elaborate. And true enough, when I came out of the plane, I saw CK was already waiting for me right in front of the exit, with 2 of chief police inspectors friends (think so as they wore 3 pips on each of their shoulders). That’s quite a scene… 1 standing on my left & the other on my right & CK was pushing the trolley upon claiming my luggages. All the way we received salutation from the police on duty…well that’s pretty flattering! Even they joked & said people must be curious to know who this lady was to have 2 senior cops to escort.

To tell you I didn’t like that kind of treatment, I would be lying. We were from very different backgrounds & all of a sudden, I thought I was living in his world. Everything he talked about & involved in was a novelty. But soon problems seeped in due to the sensitivity of his job… think about what we see in Jacky Chan’s movies… how he & the female lead being bugged (but of course not that exaggerating & minus the action-pact stunts!). Sometimes he’d just disappear for days or weeks when there’s a classified assignment. As he claimed he’d too much to juggle between 2 portfolios, he never had much time for me. No gifts on special occasions as well… it didn’t help at all considering the distance in between. But I didn’t mind being the woman “in the backstage”. It felt so different to be with someone with such impressive background. At 1 stage I did doubt on what he told me about his family background… could he just talk big? Could it be a scam? So I asked 1 of my business associates who didn’t know him in person but was coincidentally staying in the same estate. Indeed he & his family were very well-known. But so what? The confirmation didn’t get me anywhere. Lip service was no longer convincing. Slowly the very limited time left was spent on arguments. Then followed by the MSN thingy.

I never expect to meet him again as definitely wouldn’t want to jeopardize my marriage, my hubby’s trust & the great love we share. But after so many years, I’m ready to make it a proper closure. You know… sometimes even if we no longer hold any romantic feeling towards that someone for the longest time, we would somehow question ourselves, why things got to be settled this way.

During the dinner, he’s talking about which national projects he’d clinched for his family construction business & how much $$ was involved in each deal. All these no longer interest me… in fact I was feeling bored! Because I’ve realized 1 important thing - how ever big business he’s doing with the government / how much his black S-class Benz cost / how exclusive his Porsche in Adelaide was / etc… what had all these gotta do with me!? During those few years we're together, did I ever benefit from any of his wealth & was I given a chance to share any of his problems & burdens?

As we talked, more were revealed. He’d a girlfriend for about 3 months & broke up couple of months ago. According to him, he has always been loving me (read: lovING ), but the situation he’s in didn’t allow him to focus on r/s. He said he wanted to call me so much but then he couldn’t promise anything. Things were more on track now. If we're back to those times, I’d have melted. But I’ve long awaken from my fantasy & I didn’t feel anything! Also, what I chose to overlook in the past I began to pick at them now (eg. his appearance, his arrogance...).

Anyway, most importantly I said something I’ve always wanted to tell him. While he’s so engrossed in expressing to me, I dropped the bomb by telling him I’m happily married now, my hubby really dotes on me & I would not want to do anything to hurt him & my blissful marriage. Yes… I did it! He seemed devastated & asked why I didn’t wait for him (I was neither touched nor convinced…). For the very 1st time he admitted it's his fault for how things turned out & that no matter what the future holds, his feelings would be the same. So much of what he said, it didn’t matter to me anymore or whether it’s the truth or not.

In fact have thought a lot before, guess what I used to feel was infatuation that lasted a few years? Because it felt good to be with someone so interesting? When I look back after all that’d happened, I’m glad I wasn’t given the chance to take the plunge. We’re simply of different worlds. I’m a real sucker for love-in-action (like pampering, attention & lotsa mushy talks) whereas he’s so tough that he wouldn’t show his emotions easily or share his problems with anyone because of the nature of his jobs… his reasoning was he’d rather take the rap himself than implicating others if something happened. No, it didn't move me at all, unlike in the past.

At least I’ve been there, done that & know what’re really important to me at the end of the day.
Last Thurs had lunched with Ro, she asked me whether I would choose TM over Vince if I were not married. My answer without a second thought - Nope. Ah well, if I hadn’t met Vince… both Vince & I think I’d have accepted him. Or even that Senior Manager who’s an ex-commando & drives a black Rav4? Or waited for CK??
Thank God I’ve met my prince. I can’t imagine I can be any happier than now.

After being with Vince, I truly appreciate what I’m having now & I know what I really need in a relationship. Like I’ve ever said, it’s the first time in my life that I feel so pampered & loved. We’ve excellent communication which I believe hold us closer, rather than being the listener all the time with nothing much to share about. From Vince, I’ve had brand new insights about selflessness & forgiveness, because of love.

So conclusion, I’m glad I made that move. I’m glad everything is as what it is now. And yes, I’ve settled that matter, my way!

Those Were My Wildest Days

Last week, got an sms from a friend (MG) whom we’ve lost touch for more than 2 years. And well… that got my hubby to be on his toes again…

Upon receiving his message, loads of memories flooded back… when Vince was still ‘actively pursuing’ me.... & that’s the time I was involved with The Bar. Just 1 year & it’s definitely the craziest time in my life especially, to think about it, I used to be such a good girl who’s never made my parents worried since young. My life went haywire for a while & I guess… that’s my very own reaction of getting over a terrible relationship.

MG’s a bartender in a pub in town & we’re introduced through a mutual friend, E. He asked for my hp no. the 1st day (or rather, nite) we met. E got to know & seemed surprised saying MG’s actually quite a shy guy. Besides dealing with E’s weird attitude (this minute he’d praise MG & teased me about the special treatment I received at the pub, the next he’d say something bad about MG & discouraged me to be on friendly term with him), I gotta admit I didn’t really mind the attention given.
MG’s pretty upfront in expressing himself by - creating a cocktail in my name, getting me some snacks in case I went empty-stomach with alcohol, sending some medicine to my office when he knew I was sick… & there’s once it got a lil too cold in the pub & when he knew it, he immediately gave me his jacket. Went out a few times… for dinner & ktv session… also for supper after he finished work & chatted over coffee till 5am! 1 thing I was very clear about… there’s no chemistry at all. Probably due to his age (he’s even younger than Vince!)… or more importantly… I’d always think about Vince when out with him. But I didn’t mind hanging out with MG as he’d been very well-behaved… never ever tried taking advantage of me physically or verbally.

As for E, he’s 1 of the regular supporters at The Bar who would be there for 1 or 2 bottles of wine every weekend. Apart from going to MG’s pub, I’d also go to other night spots with E & the guys when I wasn’t at The Bar. The advantages of being the only girl in the group – well taken care of & no need to pay a single cent (yaya.. cheapskate right?) & the disadvantages – no girl friend to giggle with & has to be alert all the time. They seemed trustworthy people but never be too sure.

And even during those nights at The Bar particularly weekends, E or other friends would have a drink or 2 at our place before proceeding on to other pubs nearby. They’d pull me over to join them at Eastside or Siam across the road or even nearer, next door’s Newsroom. Sometimes I’d get carried away & disappeared for half an hour to even an hour.. then came back to The Bar having to face a grumpy sis.

Atop of those, because of work I got to know this gentleman, GT, who runs a freight/shipping business. We hit it off & became friends… for a few months we’d meet up for a few drinks at a sports club with his biz partners. Meanwhile, he intentionally introduced me to 1 of his staff, Eric. Quite a nice chap but my honey doesn’t have a good expression of him because of an incident. Can’t blame my honey at all.. he’s all the reasons to get upset. There’re a few times I joined GT & the rest for a drinking session & then met up with Vince (my suitor then, ha!). I’d usually get ‘punished’ by Eric for leaving early & would have to down a few glasses before going… & by the time I met Vince, I’d look like a lobster who’d just climbed out from the Johnny Walker bottle… I was forever very late (1 hour & more) for our meeting which made Vince really worried. And whenever I saw Vince, I’d always feel so safe & at ease. That’s the feeling my honey gave me from the start.
And talk about GT… I really admire him. As a boss, he’s no airs & would go on a weekly drinking session with his staff. As we’re in related business, we ever attended a gala dinner together in KL which adjourned to some party time thereafter & he’s 1 who literally works hard & plays hard.

It’s around the same time I met TM as well. Initially we went out rather frequently, for dinner & drinks… 1 evening after confiding in each other, we discovered we’re in very similar situations & I guess it somehow strengthened our bond. He’s been a very dear friend, helping me out when I was in need. Will be celebrating his BD with him this evening, my understanding hubby’s given the green light!

It’s when Vince & I were kinda officially going out that I started to distant myself from all of them. Initially I’d still receive some smses from the guys & especially MG’s last stunt really made my honey remember him till now, & it’s funny. That night after Vince’s bike lesson, we went ktv @ 12am. While singing, I received several smses from MG who’s at a stag party. After a few messages, he asked to see me later on but I told him I wasn’t free. Then around 3am when we’re about to finish our singing session, he kept calling me saying he wanted to see me & that all his friends had already left as he wanted to wait for me. From his voice, we deduced he’d gotten himself very drunk… so we decided to drive to where he’s at just to make sure he’s alright. A few turns later we finally found him… & he’s so wasted! After some coaxing, we put him on a cab we hailed to send him home before we went ahead to have supper. You should really see the look on my honey’s face then… till now he still talks about it.

Only much later that my honey told me he’s actually very worried for me during that period of time but he couldn’t do much as we’re not together yet. It’s indeed quite scary come to think about it now & I’m thankful all the guy friends I hanged out with had behaved well. I thank God that I survived & came out as a better person, with a very loving husband & beautiful home to call our own…..