Miswedded?

Many around us are going through or have just come out of broken marriages.

Is it a trend now? Everyone's jumping on the bandwagon.

Someone in the family will be getting the Certificate of Making Interim Judgment Final (previously known as Decree Nisi Absolute) end of this month. Someone in the family had gone on separation but now trying to salvage the marriage though it's a lil bleak. Someone in the family is unhappy with the marriage, attempted to jump ship a few times but failed... so struggling to maintain a make-do relationship.

Our next door lived a young couple. We would make some small chats whenever we bumped into each other. They looked like a happily wedded couple who would go JB together for golf almost every other week. The last time I saw them was at the carpark & the 3 of us were chatting (hubby was not around then). Later on I even visited their home for the first time as they wanted to show me some stuff. But shortly after, the husband disappeared. So was his car. It's obvious as they used to go to work/come home together but now we only see the wife going out/coming back alone. For so long, only hubby saw him once at carpark, 9pm+, & he's leaving. We're pretty shocked.. I mean, there's no sign at all that their relationship's on the brink. Recently, we saw several times a man who drove a 5-series BM sent her back (we're busybody), sometimes the man would even leave her place in the morning.

Some time back, we're woken up from deep sleep when my cell phone rang at 5am+. It's my ex-colleague, MW, who called to ask me go for drinks & he sounded drunk. After knowing I didn't want to go out at such hour (who would actually?), he hanged up. From his mumbles I think he said he's been drinking at home. When I woke up in the morning I felt something amiss & rang his buddy, who apparently knew nothing, to check on him. Few days later his buddy, Ed, called & told me that his wife left him. Honestly he's the last person whom I would expect to have marriage problem... being an educated beng, he's doing well as a Regional Sales Manager & all of us in the office knew he doted on his wife very much. He'd not stop talking about her in front of us.

Then 2 months ago, it's my old friend. According to him, the wife woke up one morning & was determined that they're no longer compatible & held no future together. All of a sudden she couldn't stand many things that he did. A month after her realisation, she moved out.

People's mind has changed... plus the past experience... that's why when I see a loving pair, I'd wonder... are they a 'rightful' couple? If they are, then is the guy seeing a lover behind her back? Or maybe it's the gal who has a secret boyfriend? I may be too paranoid & I'm honestly sadden by my own cynicism. But it's not difficult to find individuals who lead a double life. In fact there're more & more these days... both male & female as men no longer monopolise the world of polygamy.

Having said all the above, I'm thankful that I've a husband who can make me believe there is miracle. We do not take it for granted though as it doesn't come easy. We've gone through a lot and are devoting our utmost to nurture this relationship. Both must have the same pace & conviction to make it work.

LL, if you're reading this, I don't know what else to say.... we all have different setbacks to face, though some may have more. Take time to get through this, feel free to talk, to vent out.... and believe that what you are enduring now will make you a even stronger person.