The other day we had dinner with Vince’s family. His mum seemed all excited about the upcoming occasion. Almost the whole night, she had been talking about it… what would be given to my parents on the day of distributing wedding cakes + actual day & what we should reciprocate… the actual day’s schedule… what she gonna wear for tea ceremony (think she hasn’t come to the reception part, so she didn’t mention about it hehee..)… and even the sequential arrangement of their relatives during the tea ceremony!
Talking about tea ceremony, my MIL2b wanted Vince (& of course, inclusive of me) to greet his 2nd aunt “Godma” when offering her tea and that she would come just after Vince’s parents. Vince was very resistant as they only talked about it when he’s a child without having any official ceremony. Most importantly they have not been acknowledging each other as that all this while, so he found it awkward to suddenly address her as godmother. His mum was obviously very upset over his son’s rejection. But later Vince agreed to it after some persuasion from me as I felt that it will not affect us by giving in to his mum. I don’t see any harm to it… it’d make his mum & her sis happy... and who knows, we might even get a fatter angpao just because of a change in the title, haha! Of course there are things we have to be firm and certain matters we can give in to them. Eg. his mum wanted to invite some extended relatives & she tried talking about it a few times but could not change our mind as we gotta strictly constrain to the number we set. We also explained to her that by inviting only some of the extended ones would create misunderstandings from the rest who are not invited, so the best is none (as it can't be all).
I guess we really have to practice the art of tolerance & insistence to make it a joyous event by pleasing our parents without compromising our own plans & wishes.
Well, in general we’re very glad to feel his family’s excitement & our joy is being shared
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