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Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Haunted
Recently, one night after shower I was about to blow dry my hair while watching news, a déjà face & voice caught my attention. It's him. He's running a restaurant & was being interviewed on tv. During the time when he aggressively pursued me, he's already the owner of a very popular pub in town & Dy MD of an established firm. Perhaps due to that, I didn't mind the attention & the chance to know him better. He's not good looking but I thought he's capable & charismatic.
However, I soon discovered the horrific sides of him. His temperament was extreme... when he's happy, he could make you laugh and everything around would be bright & cheery. But when he's in a foul mood, I saw & heard the worst vulgarity from him. Though they weren't directed at me, I wouldn't want to be associated with all these verbal abuses. Especially because I'm someone who doesn't swear. But I would only be upset secretly (lest I provoked him further). An explosive temper plus an ego that'd gone way too out of proportion, and I hadn't mention he's also such a manipulative person. This combination made up one of the most disastrous boyfriends. So it wouldn't take much to imagine, the short stint & split became a nightmare.
Some memories are meant to be kept in storage, take them out to reminisce every now & then. But some are meant to be dumped in a non-recycle bin as you never want them back. And those relating to him, definitely belong to the latter.
However, I soon discovered the horrific sides of him. His temperament was extreme... when he's happy, he could make you laugh and everything around would be bright & cheery. But when he's in a foul mood, I saw & heard the worst vulgarity from him. Though they weren't directed at me, I wouldn't want to be associated with all these verbal abuses. Especially because I'm someone who doesn't swear. But I would only be upset secretly (lest I provoked him further). An explosive temper plus an ego that'd gone way too out of proportion, and I hadn't mention he's also such a manipulative person. This combination made up one of the most disastrous boyfriends. So it wouldn't take much to imagine, the short stint & split became a nightmare.
Some memories are meant to be kept in storage, take them out to reminisce every now & then. But some are meant to be dumped in a non-recycle bin as you never want them back. And those relating to him, definitely belong to the latter.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
The Longest we ever had, so far
We’d had a very nice break of 12.5days for Christmas/New Year. Getting into the details, we’ve spent 294 hours together, if inclusive of 6-7 hrs of sleep every day… the missing 6 hrs (12.5 days = 300 hours) would have to be our toilet trips & shower time for those days.
Didn’t go out of Singapore but the fact that we didn’t need to work was delightful enough:) Every morning when we woke up, the first thing we thought about was: "where to have breakfast?".
It's an interesting holiday. Had an assortment of activities during these 12.5days:
- Christmas Eve > gathering with Vince’s family & relatives
- Christmas Day > gathering with my family
- Boxing Day > my “body wellness day” >> facial treatment, acupuncture session then shopping in FEP (shopping = wellness? Sure! :P)
- Several nights > gaming session. Some memory game using poker cards. And hubby also taught me to play "dai di"... as in the past I didn't have the interest to learn though someone's willing to teach. Only both of us, poker cards, beer, chips. Had so much fun that we wouldn’t sleep before 1am during those nights (when we played cards).
- The few days before New Year (29 -31 Dec) > we’re out almost the whole day but just stayed within the neighbourhood. We seemed to have endless things to buy (mainly for the household). In & out of the newly renovated Northpoint & newly opened Sembawang Shopping Centre.
- New Year’s Eve > dinner with mum in Northpoint. Her treat!
- New Year’s Day > had dinner & drinks with L.
- Aside the above, we also started our spring cleaning - packed the smaller store room & removed the curtain for dry cleaning, watched TVB series, sent some of our new clothes to our regular seamstress in Rochor for alteration & gave our car's interior a thorough steam cleaning .....
While our colleagues felt it'd bore them out to have such a long break if weren't travelling, hubby & I found it addictive and wanted more! Maybe we're plain lazy! Hehe.
The next we're looking forward to will be the 9-day CNY break :)
Didn’t go out of Singapore but the fact that we didn’t need to work was delightful enough:) Every morning when we woke up, the first thing we thought about was: "where to have breakfast?".
It's an interesting holiday. Had an assortment of activities during these 12.5days:
- Christmas Eve > gathering with Vince’s family & relatives
- Christmas Day > gathering with my family
- Boxing Day > my “body wellness day” >> facial treatment, acupuncture session then shopping in FEP (shopping = wellness? Sure! :P)
- Several nights > gaming session. Some memory game using poker cards. And hubby also taught me to play "dai di"... as in the past I didn't have the interest to learn though someone's willing to teach. Only both of us, poker cards, beer, chips. Had so much fun that we wouldn’t sleep before 1am during those nights (when we played cards).
- The few days before New Year (29 -31 Dec) > we’re out almost the whole day but just stayed within the neighbourhood. We seemed to have endless things to buy (mainly for the household). In & out of the newly renovated Northpoint & newly opened Sembawang Shopping Centre.
- New Year’s Eve > dinner with mum in Northpoint. Her treat!
- New Year’s Day > had dinner & drinks with L.
- Aside the above, we also started our spring cleaning - packed the smaller store room & removed the curtain for dry cleaning, watched TVB series, sent some of our new clothes to our regular seamstress in Rochor for alteration & gave our car's interior a thorough steam cleaning .....
While our colleagues felt it'd bore them out to have such a long break if weren't travelling, hubby & I found it addictive and wanted more! Maybe we're plain lazy! Hehe.
The next we're looking forward to will be the 9-day CNY break :)
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
Marathon
On New Year's Day, we met L for dinner and continued the chat over drinks... for a record-breaking 9hours. Well I'm not sure about L but that's the longest for me, as well as for hubby.
Dinner started around 6.45pm opposite our place, at this very popular 'Taste of Thailand'. Around 8pm, we moved to our place downstairs. A bottle of red wine, some left over bottles of liquor and chips.
I'm not taking sides, anyway we're not in a position to do so. As we all know, neither of them can say he/she is acquitted, though one might have to shoulder a larger portion of faults for making such move. But there're just too many pre-existing problems that contributed to today's situation which seriously I don't think are negligible issues. Not nitpicking or trying to condemn but I feel that it's important to dissect the problems to know what've actually gone wrong. This is essential for communication & reconciliation, though I'm not sure whether it's too late now. Been there before... if the other party only has the intention to salvage but doesn't realise there're serious problems fatal to the relationship, how can things be worked out? Worse is, what's being focused on is my wrongdoings that have resulted in the current situation & his are considered small matters. To say it crudely, I'll even be more convinced of my decision because things won't change, and he won't change.
I miss M, this sweet friend.
L only left few minutes before 4am. By the time we went to bed, it was nearly 5am. Thank God we didn't have to work the next day.
We know we can't help much... just hope for the best for L, who is a very nice & dear friend to us, in 2009.
Dinner started around 6.45pm opposite our place, at this very popular 'Taste of Thailand'. Around 8pm, we moved to our place downstairs. A bottle of red wine, some left over bottles of liquor and chips.
Our drinks of the night + Alizé Bleu (not in pic)
I'm not taking sides, anyway we're not in a position to do so. As we all know, neither of them can say he/she is acquitted, though one might have to shoulder a larger portion of faults for making such move. But there're just too many pre-existing problems that contributed to today's situation which seriously I don't think are negligible issues. Not nitpicking or trying to condemn but I feel that it's important to dissect the problems to know what've actually gone wrong. This is essential for communication & reconciliation, though I'm not sure whether it's too late now. Been there before... if the other party only has the intention to salvage but doesn't realise there're serious problems fatal to the relationship, how can things be worked out? Worse is, what's being focused on is my wrongdoings that have resulted in the current situation & his are considered small matters. To say it crudely, I'll even be more convinced of my decision because things won't change, and he won't change.
I miss M, this sweet friend.
L only left few minutes before 4am. By the time we went to bed, it was nearly 5am. Thank God we didn't have to work the next day.
We know we can't help much... just hope for the best for L, who is a very nice & dear friend to us, in 2009.
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
In the brand new year to come...
Bless our marriage so we will always be as loving or even more;
Teach us to be good keepers of the money You provide us;
Lead us and we both shall walk hand in hand through all turbulence;
Remind us to count Your Blessings every single day;
Amen.
Teach us to be good keepers of the money You provide us;
Lead us and we both shall walk hand in hand through all turbulence;
Remind us to count Your Blessings every single day;
Amen.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Exploration
Recently we've heard that the shopping mall near our place, Sembawang Shopping Centre (SSC), would be ready for business any time before Christmas. It's long overdue for completion as works started more than 2 years ago if I've not remembered wrongly.
From the facade, we thought it's going to be another hearsay spreading around. Afterall, their opening date had time & again been postponed numerous times.
Last morning while topping up petrol opposite SSC, we saw cars queuing to enter its carpark & people getting in/out of the building. So it's really completed. And we joined in the fun too :P
There're lil surprises here & there from exploring the mall... The biggest one gotta be - Astons is here, in the very north!:D Then there's Daiso, a much smaller scale though. Quite a selection of restaurants & bakeries in SSC... interesting...
We went to SSC again just now and there's even a much longer queue of cars waiting to get into the carpark. We're glad that on both occasions we made the wise choice of parking in front of the terrace houses that's within walking distance. So we confirm that only few people working this week :)
And about Astons
We're such loyal supporters of Astons. Used to frequent theirs at East Coast Road & Serangoon Gardens till the crowd went a lil too crazy (imagine having to take your dinner as early as 5pm in order to get a seat?). Maybe better now that there're more outlets. What's worth commending - their standard is as good across all outlets, or as far as those we've visited before. So far no one, whom we've recommended Astons to, has any negative comment about them.
Besides the above 2, we've so far visited them in Tampines (coffeeshop), Ang Mo Kio (coffeeshop)... And I tell you, their fellow stall holders obviously hate them. In fact we've just been to another one in Cathay Building on Sunday.
Just now, we'd an early dinner at 5.20pm as we couldn't help but wanting to visit their SSC outlet :P By 6pm, the place was full but we think their appeal hasn't gone in full force yet. From the behaviour of most patrons (standing long enough in front of the restaurant before stepping in), you could tell they've not known Astons.
From the facade, we thought it's going to be another hearsay spreading around. Afterall, their opening date had time & again been postponed numerous times.
Last morning while topping up petrol opposite SSC, we saw cars queuing to enter its carpark & people getting in/out of the building. So it's really completed. And we joined in the fun too :P
There're lil surprises here & there from exploring the mall... The biggest one gotta be - Astons is here, in the very north!:D Then there's Daiso, a much smaller scale though. Quite a selection of restaurants & bakeries in SSC... interesting...
We went to SSC again just now and there's even a much longer queue of cars waiting to get into the carpark. We're glad that on both occasions we made the wise choice of parking in front of the terrace houses that's within walking distance. So we confirm that only few people working this week :)
And about Astons
We're such loyal supporters of Astons. Used to frequent theirs at East Coast Road & Serangoon Gardens till the crowd went a lil too crazy (imagine having to take your dinner as early as 5pm in order to get a seat?). Maybe better now that there're more outlets. What's worth commending - their standard is as good across all outlets, or as far as those we've visited before. So far no one, whom we've recommended Astons to, has any negative comment about them.
Besides the above 2, we've so far visited them in Tampines (coffeeshop), Ang Mo Kio (coffeeshop)... And I tell you, their fellow stall holders obviously hate them. In fact we've just been to another one in Cathay Building on Sunday.
Just now, we'd an early dinner at 5.20pm as we couldn't help but wanting to visit their SSC outlet :P By 6pm, the place was full but we think their appeal hasn't gone in full force yet. From the behaviour of most patrons (standing long enough in front of the restaurant before stepping in), you could tell they've not known Astons.
One of their nicer outlets, in SSC
Monday, December 29, 2008
What we've got for Christmas ...
An assortment of items from The Body Shop with net worth of S$60 (after 50% discount).One day, I met cousin Ann for lunch & we went for a Christmas shopping spree at TBS. My original intention was to get presents for hubby's & my colleagues as well as some of our siblings & relatives. Half an hour later, I left with 2 big bags of TBS products & S$210 spent. Was relieved that I managed to settle those presents that I wanted to but at the same time, was a bit upset & shocked that I bought so much for myself as well.
So when hubby asked me what he should get for me, I handed him the chunk of loots from TBS which he packed into a nice "hamper", displayed in an acrylic box. Times are bad, I've to learn to be thrifty. Having said that, eventually I still bought 2 handbags, 2 pairs of shoes, 2 tops & 1 dress, all in the name of CNY (to make myself feel better).
As for hubby's, I bought him a nice shirt.
Friday, December 26, 2008
Merry Christmas! :)
We're so busy for the last 3 weeks. The first week was work for both of us, then the last 2 were for the Christmas festivities.
All in all, I've wrapped 41 pieces of presents this year (including hubby's colleagues, my colleagues/friends and our families & relatives)!
Besides having quite a lot of time dedicated to Christmas shopping, here's a summary of the past weeks ...
The weekend of 13/14 Dec - Busy looking for a gift for PY & Brian on Sat & attended Zoe's 12th birthday party in the evening. After church on Sunday, we'd breakfast with PY & Brian & then visited their new home. Had a good time catching up. Their apartment at Estella Gardens looks great, especially their walk-in wardrobe. I've been longing for one ever since 3 years ago when we're looking for our place but were aware that we couldn't get everything I wanted with our budget. I'm so gonna have it one day... the ultimate would be to convert a room into a boutique-style walk in closet... hubby has promised me one (he didn't say when though, ha!)...
18 Dec - I had a 2.5-hour Christmas lunch with my ex-boss, DG, from the previous company. Plus travelling to Bugis, my lunch that day took a good 3 hours. Thank God I've a very nice boss who gave me the 'greenlight' to do so:) It's so nice to be revisiting my old office. And I bought DG & my ex-colleagues an Awfully Chocolate cake. We'd Japanese food at KŌ, Hotel InterContinental. DG, who had recently visited France, also brought back a gift for me from the ex-Principal. Had a very good lunch... we caught up on things & chatted like old friends, which had never happened before... perhaps because there's no restriction now that we're no longer employer/employee.
Currently we're enjoying a long break which we've been so looking forward to. Hubby ended work much earlier than me... his last day in office was physically 17 Dec as he attended a 1-day seminar on 18 Dec & his department's Christmas party was at our multi-purpose hall the following day (Fri) so he didn't need to go to office that day. Whereas my leave started on 23 Dec lunch. It's so tough to bring myself to office during those days that hubby wasn't working. No mood at all to work! But hubby dearest still faithfully sent me to office without any reluctance which helped me a lot. Hubby had to clear about 10 days leave before end of this year so he's having a 2-week break. Whereas I just need to take 4.5 days to enjoy a 12.5 no-work days as 26 Dec & 2 Jan 2009 are declared as additional holidays by my company. We'll only go back to work on 5 Jan. Yeah! :D
All in all, I've wrapped 41 pieces of presents this year (including hubby's colleagues, my colleagues/friends and our families & relatives)!
Presents for my boss/colleagues/friends
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2 boxes of Royce chocolates (not in pic) that were for my ex-bosses, wrapped & kept refrigerated.
For our families & relatives. All these were wrapped within 5 hours that were split into 2 sessions - 23rd night & 24th afternoon.
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2 boxes of Royce chocolates (not in pic) that were for my ex-bosses, wrapped & kept refrigerated.
For our families & relatives. All these were wrapped within 5 hours that were split into 2 sessions - 23rd night & 24th afternoon.
Besides having quite a lot of time dedicated to Christmas shopping, here's a summary of the past weeks ...
The weekend of 13/14 Dec - Busy looking for a gift for PY & Brian on Sat & attended Zoe's 12th birthday party in the evening. After church on Sunday, we'd breakfast with PY & Brian & then visited their new home. Had a good time catching up. Their apartment at Estella Gardens looks great, especially their walk-in wardrobe. I've been longing for one ever since 3 years ago when we're looking for our place but were aware that we couldn't get everything I wanted with our budget. I'm so gonna have it one day... the ultimate would be to convert a room into a boutique-style walk in closet... hubby has promised me one (he didn't say when though, ha!)...
OTT a lil... This is my dream walk in wardrobe (but I would like it better that the wood is in white or black instead), best if I can put an island in the middle for my accessories. Well, I'll have to dream for many years to have a closet of this size....
18 Dec - I had a 2.5-hour Christmas lunch with my ex-boss, DG, from the previous company. Plus travelling to Bugis, my lunch that day took a good 3 hours. Thank God I've a very nice boss who gave me the 'greenlight' to do so:) It's so nice to be revisiting my old office. And I bought DG & my ex-colleagues an Awfully Chocolate cake. We'd Japanese food at KŌ, Hotel InterContinental. DG, who had recently visited France, also brought back a gift for me from the ex-Principal. Had a very good lunch... we caught up on things & chatted like old friends, which had never happened before... perhaps because there's no restriction now that we're no longer employer/employee.
21 Dec was 冬至. Bro & family came back for dinner (sis gotta work that day)... & we'd a ktv session before dinner. In the morning we got the Royce chocolates from Suntec before having lunch with mum in Bishan & brought her to J8 to get her CNY clothes. It has sort of become an annual schedule since 3 years ago when hubby & I successfully changed mum's image :P I guess she's in a way dependent on us now in choosing the right clothes for her.
Christmas Party on Silent Night at one of hubby's aunts' - GS.
Her 3-storey house of 3 months in Upper Thomson with a total 5,000+ sq.ft is awesome. That night, hubby & I were so distracted... By watching how the 10 over kids climbed her S$15,000 designer sofa while eating chips, pulling the $S3,000+ screen by the staircase made up of strings of crystal-lookalike balls, running around the house & banging all the doors, hubby & I felt really heart pain for GS. But she was so cool about it... hmm.
Family party on Christmas Day.
We'd so much fun playing the Singapore-version monopoly that some of us nearly lost our voice after the game:) We bought it 2 weeks ago from Carrefour after much hesitation but seeing how it gave us laughters & bonding time, we never regret getting it.
Christmas Party on Silent Night at one of hubby's aunts' - GS.Her 3-storey house of 3 months in Upper Thomson with a total 5,000+ sq.ft is awesome. That night, hubby & I were so distracted... By watching how the 10 over kids climbed her S$15,000 designer sofa while eating chips, pulling the $S3,000+ screen by the staircase made up of strings of crystal-lookalike balls, running around the house & banging all the doors, hubby & I felt really heart pain for GS. But she was so cool about it... hmm.
Family party on Christmas Day.We'd so much fun playing the Singapore-version monopoly that some of us nearly lost our voice after the game:) We bought it 2 weeks ago from Carrefour after much hesitation but seeing how it gave us laughters & bonding time, we never regret getting it.
Currently we're enjoying a long break which we've been so looking forward to. Hubby ended work much earlier than me... his last day in office was physically 17 Dec as he attended a 1-day seminar on 18 Dec & his department's Christmas party was at our multi-purpose hall the following day (Fri) so he didn't need to go to office that day. Whereas my leave started on 23 Dec lunch. It's so tough to bring myself to office during those days that hubby wasn't working. No mood at all to work! But hubby dearest still faithfully sent me to office without any reluctance which helped me a lot. Hubby had to clear about 10 days leave before end of this year so he's having a 2-week break. Whereas I just need to take 4.5 days to enjoy a 12.5 no-work days as 26 Dec & 2 Jan 2009 are declared as additional holidays by my company. We'll only go back to work on 5 Jan. Yeah! :D
Monday, December 08, 2008
Movie Date
It's a very nice & cosy movie date on Sun night. A '3-course dinner' throughout the 150-min movie with some additional scenes (that we didn't get to watch in cinema).
Last morning, sent mum to church and then to meet her sisters as they're going for a 3D2N stay at another sister's place in Pontian, Johor.
So we blasted our SATC movie in the living room. Too lazy to be out for dinner so utilised our stock:
1st course - Farmland nuggets (our favourite among all other brands)
2nd course - 生面皇干捞面 (that is, Instant Noodle King's dried noodle)
3rd course - Ikea Blueberry Cake
Haha.
And we had Ikea's Kopparberg Pear Cider (4.5%) as beverage for the evening.
By the way, the Blueberry Cake was good.
Last morning, sent mum to church and then to meet her sisters as they're going for a 3D2N stay at another sister's place in Pontian, Johor.
So we blasted our SATC movie in the living room. Too lazy to be out for dinner so utilised our stock:
1st course - Farmland nuggets (our favourite among all other brands)
2nd course - 生面皇干捞面 (that is, Instant Noodle King's dried noodle)
3rd course - Ikea Blueberry Cake
Haha.
And we had Ikea's Kopparberg Pear Cider (4.5%) as beverage for the evening.
By the way, the Blueberry Cake was good.
Ikea's Blueberry Cake.
My no.1 selection is still the Apple Cake... very yummy with vanilla sauce/ice cream and especially delicious with crushed walnuts or almond flakes as topping. They don't taste at all like those typical ready-made pastries/cakes. And the best part's they're not expensive;)
Thursday, December 04, 2008
Finally, the long wait's over!
Sex And The City movie! Yeah!Been on a lookout for the release of DVD ever since the movie first shown in end May. Months had passed & nothing displayed. One day (about 2 months ago), we finally asked a staff from Gramophone & he told us that the DVD of SATC movie was banned in Singapore. We're like "huh?... but we already watched in cinema.. why banned then?" And we're disappointed.
Then last Sun, hubby spotted it when we passed by TS Causeway Point! Hee! This'll complete our collection ;)
We've already scheduled it to be our Sunday night entertainment. A great way to spend our PH eve. And yes, will be watching it for the 3rd time!
With some popcorns perhaps, honey? :P
Monday, December 01, 2008
Tis the season...
... to have gatherings ....
One for the family (my inlaws & members) a week ago, then one with the sisters last Thurs and last Sat, with all the good friends from my previous church at our place & now with their families too. There should be another one coming up with the secondary school classmates and one with the cousins from daddy's side. But I'm trying to push the next two to as late as possible (both supposed to be beginning of Dec)... kind of busy & it's tiring to have all within a month. Yet I was the one who called for all these gatherings.. mm...Last Thurs, met the sisters for dinner at Picotin. The chicken & pizza were pretty good but I didn't really fancy the rest that we ordered (we shared 3 mains & 3 desserts). Ambience was quite good though. So all in all, we'd a great get-together.
Then It's a busy Sat. We're out till 3pm-ish and started preparing at 4. We'd lotus root soup, honeyed chicken wings, nuggets, fried bee hoon & beancurd almond. Our friends began to arrive from 6.30pm and we're glad that everyone came, even those who initially said they wouldn't be joining. Food wise, there were too much... before that I still worried we didn't have enough, that's why I prepared 4 dishes (& a dessert). We ended up having fried chicken wings, pan fried honeyed chicken wings & steam chicken (白斩鸡) among the other food. That's the consequence of not revealing what we're bringing.
Total 23 of us. It's nice mingling around and the kids had fun at the pool too. Very importantly, thanks hubby for entertaining the guests like his own friends. It's something I should never take for granted. :)
Sunday, November 30, 2008
A congratulatory bouquet
Last Sunday we attended Constance's baptism and gave her this bouquet.And it's the latest addition to My Works :)
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Family affair
Last Sat we'd BBQ at our place. With my inlaws and the family plus mum.
All of them loved the chicken wings I marinated... hubby should share the credit too as we did it together :)
It's the first time mum alone joined in & initially I was a lil worried. I didn't want to be the sandwich. But thankfully my MIL was very friendly and she kinda kept mum company.
Surprisingly, during school holidays, we're the only group there so it's more like a private function and we'd the luxury of using all the tables & chairs. Maybe it's rainy season being end of the year so everybody's not keen to do BBQ. Like that evening, we'd a lil rain initially but thank God it stopped soon after we started. And the cool air actually did help to keep the heat down.
By the way, City Satay's pork satays are delicious; we purposely made a trip to their shop in the east which's near hubby's office on Sat morning.
All of them loved the chicken wings I marinated... hubby should share the credit too as we did it together :)
It's the first time mum alone joined in & initially I was a lil worried. I didn't want to be the sandwich. But thankfully my MIL was very friendly and she kinda kept mum company.
Surprisingly, during school holidays, we're the only group there so it's more like a private function and we'd the luxury of using all the tables & chairs. Maybe it's rainy season being end of the year so everybody's not keen to do BBQ. Like that evening, we'd a lil rain initially but thank God it stopped soon after we started. And the cool air actually did help to keep the heat down.
By the way, City Satay's pork satays are delicious; we purposely made a trip to their shop in the east which's near hubby's office on Sat morning.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
It's RETRO time ...
Me!?
Don't I look havoc with this afro hair? :P
Cool hairstyle! Haha
Hubby's favourite.Hubby happened to come across this website and decided to give us a makeover. When I opened his email of these pix (there're still many more), I couldn't help but burst out laughing.
A few more......
Think I do look quite good in the above 2 pix right? ;)
Not for hubby though... hee.
Not too bad for this...And this is Ben's (my BIL) & our fav......
He's going to kill me! Hahaha!
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Miswedded?
Many around us are going through or have just come out of broken marriages.
Is it a trend now? Everyone's jumping on the bandwagon.
Someone in the family will be getting the Certificate of Making Interim Judgment Final (previously known as Decree Nisi Absolute) end of this month. Someone in the family had gone on separation but now trying to salvage the marriage though it's a lil bleak. Someone in the family is unhappy with the marriage, attempted to jump ship a few times but failed... so struggling to maintain a make-do relationship.
Our next door lived a young couple. We would make some small chats whenever we bumped into each other. They looked like a happily wedded couple who would go JB together for golf almost every other week. The last time I saw them was at the carpark & the 3 of us were chatting (hubby was not around then). Later on I even visited their home for the first time as they wanted to show me some stuff. But shortly after, the husband disappeared. So was his car. It's obvious as they used to go to work/come home together but now we only see the wife going out/coming back alone. For so long, only hubby saw him once at carpark, 9pm+, & he's leaving. We're pretty shocked.. I mean, there's no sign at all that their relationship's on the brink. Recently, we saw several times a man who drove a 5-series BM sent her back (we're busybody), sometimes the man would even leave her place in the morning.
Some time back, we're woken up from deep sleep when my cell phone rang at 5am+. It's my ex-colleague, MW, who called to ask me go for drinks & he sounded drunk. After knowing I didn't want to go out at such hour (who would actually?), he hanged up. From his mumbles I think he said he's been drinking at home. When I woke up in the morning I felt something amiss & rang his buddy, who apparently knew nothing, to check on him. Few days later his buddy, Ed, called & told me that his wife left him. Honestly he's the last person whom I would expect to have marriage problem... being an educated beng, he's doing well as a Regional Sales Manager & all of us in the office knew he doted on his wife very much. He'd not stop talking about her in front of us.
Then 2 months ago, it's my old friend. According to him, the wife woke up one morning & was determined that they're no longer compatible & held no future together. All of a sudden she couldn't stand many things that he did. A month after her realisation, she moved out.
People's mind has changed... plus the past experience... that's why when I see a loving pair, I'd wonder... are they a 'rightful' couple? If they are, then is the guy seeing a lover behind her back? Or maybe it's the gal who has a secret boyfriend? I may be too paranoid & I'm honestly sadden by my own cynicism. But it's not difficult to find individuals who lead a double life. In fact there're more & more these days... both male & female as men no longer monopolise the world of polygamy.
Having said all the above, I'm thankful that I've a husband who can make me believe there is miracle. We do not take it for granted though as it doesn't come easy. We've gone through a lot and are devoting our utmost to nurture this relationship. Both must have the same pace & conviction to make it work.
LL, if you're reading this, I don't know what else to say.... we all have different setbacks to face, though some may have more. Take time to get through this, feel free to talk, to vent out.... and believe that what you are enduring now will make you a even stronger person.
Is it a trend now? Everyone's jumping on the bandwagon.
Someone in the family will be getting the Certificate of Making Interim Judgment Final (previously known as Decree Nisi Absolute) end of this month. Someone in the family had gone on separation but now trying to salvage the marriage though it's a lil bleak. Someone in the family is unhappy with the marriage, attempted to jump ship a few times but failed... so struggling to maintain a make-do relationship.
Our next door lived a young couple. We would make some small chats whenever we bumped into each other. They looked like a happily wedded couple who would go JB together for golf almost every other week. The last time I saw them was at the carpark & the 3 of us were chatting (hubby was not around then). Later on I even visited their home for the first time as they wanted to show me some stuff. But shortly after, the husband disappeared. So was his car. It's obvious as they used to go to work/come home together but now we only see the wife going out/coming back alone. For so long, only hubby saw him once at carpark, 9pm+, & he's leaving. We're pretty shocked.. I mean, there's no sign at all that their relationship's on the brink. Recently, we saw several times a man who drove a 5-series BM sent her back (we're busybody), sometimes the man would even leave her place in the morning.
Some time back, we're woken up from deep sleep when my cell phone rang at 5am+. It's my ex-colleague, MW, who called to ask me go for drinks & he sounded drunk. After knowing I didn't want to go out at such hour (who would actually?), he hanged up. From his mumbles I think he said he's been drinking at home. When I woke up in the morning I felt something amiss & rang his buddy, who apparently knew nothing, to check on him. Few days later his buddy, Ed, called & told me that his wife left him. Honestly he's the last person whom I would expect to have marriage problem... being an educated beng, he's doing well as a Regional Sales Manager & all of us in the office knew he doted on his wife very much. He'd not stop talking about her in front of us.
Then 2 months ago, it's my old friend. According to him, the wife woke up one morning & was determined that they're no longer compatible & held no future together. All of a sudden she couldn't stand many things that he did. A month after her realisation, she moved out.
People's mind has changed... plus the past experience... that's why when I see a loving pair, I'd wonder... are they a 'rightful' couple? If they are, then is the guy seeing a lover behind her back? Or maybe it's the gal who has a secret boyfriend? I may be too paranoid & I'm honestly sadden by my own cynicism. But it's not difficult to find individuals who lead a double life. In fact there're more & more these days... both male & female as men no longer monopolise the world of polygamy.
Having said all the above, I'm thankful that I've a husband who can make me believe there is miracle. We do not take it for granted though as it doesn't come easy. We've gone through a lot and are devoting our utmost to nurture this relationship. Both must have the same pace & conviction to make it work.
LL, if you're reading this, I don't know what else to say.... we all have different setbacks to face, though some may have more. Take time to get through this, feel free to talk, to vent out.... and believe that what you are enduring now will make you a even stronger person.
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